It is common for coparents to feel anxious when their child is at the other parent’s house. In some cases, this could also cause the child to feel anxious, so it is a good idea to learn how to manage these emotions and concerns.
One key step is to work together with the other coparent and focus on communication. If the two of you can communicate regarding the child’s needs and well-being, it can really ease your anxiety. You know that they are doing well and that they are being cared for, even when they are not under your direct supervision.
Focus on distractions
In some situations, you may be able to communicate with the child. If you have a teenager who has a cellphone, for instance, you may be able to text them or use video calls, even when they are staying with your ex.
But there are also naturally going to be times when you are simply out of contact with the child until you have custody again. At these times, it can be helpful to distract yourself and focus on your own life and your own goals. Examples include:
- Spending time with friends
- Focusing on hobbies, like reading a book
- Getting exercise or going for a walk
- Focusing on work so that you can get ahead and have more time to spend with your child when you have custody again
It is natural to feel anxious, but it often feels worse if you are sitting around waiting for the next custody exchange. If you are proactive about spending this time doing other activities, you will likely feel less anxious, and the time will seem to pass more quickly.
Navigating shared custody
Anxiety is just one thing to consider when addressing shared custody issues. If you have any questions about your legal or physical custody rights as a coparent, it can be helpful to work with an experienced family law attorney.