Even when divorcing couples want a clean break, they likely need to communicate with each other frequently throughout the divorce process. They need to settle their disputes or co-parent.
There are communication strategies that can reduce conflict levels and help spouses avoid unnecessary stress during a divorce. The three communication tips below can help people minimize conflict levels during a divorce.
1. Focus on the practical
Parents who have children together may need to communicate daily about their children. Spouses with businesses or mortgages likely need to interact occasionally to address their shared responsibilities. Keeping all communication focused solely on relevant practical matters instead of on fault or the intense emotions that arise during divorce can limit opportunities for arguments.
2. Use a written communication system
Divorcing couples often agree to communicate solely in writing through text messages, emails or even co-parenting apps. Face-to-face conversations and phone calls may become too emotional. Written communication inspires calmness, as there is a permanent record of every email or text message sent.
3. Use lawyers for negotiations
There is no rule stating that spouses must communicate directly to negotiate a settlement during divorce. It is practical for spouses to establish clear expectations with their attorneys and then let their lawyers try to settle the details. Allowing for communication through attorneys can help spouses avoid direct interactions that could devolve into shouting matches.
People who prioritize calm and effective communication can potentially avoid disputes and reach settlements that allow them to file uncontested divorces. Establishing clear communication rules early in the divorce process can help people protect their peace of mind and limit divorce-related arguments.